Yet, at the same time, I knew couples who did it right.They met, fell in love, dated and waited until they were married to have sex.
He blessed them, and one of the first commands He gave them was to "be fruitful and multiply" (Genesis -28).Viticus Thomas, one half of the married couple behind Dating and Waiting, a ministry that promotes abstinence, advises young men to not make sex a focal point, but to instead point the relationship in a better direction.One way a man can do this is by paying attention to the kinds of dates he plans."It is best that you and your date do a lot of outside activities so you can remain focused on each other and not sex," he says. Don't add more temptation by always being alone." Jason Peaks agrees that a relationship out in the open helped him and Danielle stay pure."We tried to not be in a house together alone," he says. No laying or lounging on couches or beds." When temptation arose, Jason says he showed leadership by taking 2 Timothy literally.There seemed to be a special connection between them that made me wonder, It started me on a quest to discover what I call "practical abstinence." All of the "true love waits" messages mean nothing if they can't be put into practice.
And that seems to be where many Christians fall short. You can't jump into dating and expect that sexual temptation won't be an issue.
Passion can build inside of you much like stress or tension can, and it's important to control that passion before it controls you.
For some that means avoiding sexually charged movies, books, television and anything else that puts you in the mood.
So where does this leave all of those who have already messed up?
For couples who have slept together or have other regrets, it's important to know that you can always put your relationship on the right path.
When our sexual selves are the focus, we lose who we are as whole people.